原标题:什么是舔狗?怎么看自己是不是舔狗?舔狗终结篇!
关于舔狗的文章,我写了有两个,今天是第三篇,也是最后一篇,因为再写关于舔狗的,我发现我就要吐了。
很多人对舔狗都抱着同情,但实际上我在前两篇文章里面其实已经说得很明白了,舔狗其实是不值得被同情的,为什么他不值得被同情?
到底什么样的人才被称之为舔狗?他们的结局为什么都很惨?今天我们就一点一点的剖析出来。
首先我们来说,第一个就是什么样的人才可以被称之为舔狗?
说白了就是对方对自己没有意思,可能自己已经感觉出来了,或者已经明确告知了,但是依然契而不舍,而且还舍弃了自己的自尊,要不怎么可能被称之为狗。
他也不会管是否会给对方造成一些困扰,就是拼命的在用自己的方式嘘寒问暖,拼命用自己的方式对对方好。
这么一分析,会发现我们身边有太多人是舔狗了,不分男女,都在用自己的方式对一个不喜欢自己的人拼命的好,然后对方还理所应当的接受,最后落得个感觉自己受伤,抑郁的情绪当中。
舔狗是深情吗?其实二者是有本质性区别的。
什么本质区别?深情是能够接受自己得不到这件事,即使得不到也不会去打扰对方。
而舔狗就是为了得到。而且在得到的这个过程当中,一步一步的去合理化自己的行为,即使给对方造成困扰也不自知。
这里面我们要重点说说不自知这个环节,因为真的很多舔狗是真的不自知,在他们的心里就是认为对方可能喜欢自己,要不怎么会有一系列的细节行为都指向喜欢,从不喜欢里面找喜欢,是他们最常愿意做的事情!
我们用一种情境去把它演绎出来,很多时候,舔狗在给喜欢的人发信息的时候,每次发,对方也会回复,他不会回复的那么及时,为什么?
因为对方不喜欢你啊,就这么简单。
那他每次回复,你就感觉,可能对你有意思。
然后你就频繁的各种早安,晚安,吃了吗,在干嘛,聊聊人生,说说理想,找各种话题。
时不时的你有可能会给他发一些红包,节日送个礼物,对方也是坦然接受,然后就会想,他还是喜欢我的,要不怎么不拒绝我,也愿意收我的礼物,也愿意收我的红包,还没拒绝,对吧?
你说礼物也收了,红包也收了,也没有表现出明显的拒绝,但是真实情况真是这样吗?
在对方心里,他很困扰,他知道你对他有好感,没有人会拒绝一个喜欢自己的人,你喜欢我是你的事,但是我不喜欢你,我的态度已经很明显了,是你自己感觉不到而已,这跟我没关系。
很多人就不理解了,既然不喜欢你就应该不回我的信息,或者不搭理我,为什么还回复我的信息呢?
对方也很无辜,我回复你信息仅仅是出于礼貌,并不是因为别的,别人发的信息,只要不讨厌,我也会回复,这根本说明不了什么?除非你是把我烦的实在受不了了,那可能我会拉黑删除,因为本身你在我这里就不重要,留着你也没意义,不到最后阶段,肯定是不会走这一步的。
为什么要收礼物?其实你送的礼物吧,也不想收。但是感觉要退回去,有点太不给面子了,你说回赠又感觉好像有点暧昧,那只能是勉强收下。
红包为什么也收呢?那你白给的钱谁不要?
看了是不是感觉挺扎心的?但这就是事实,真正喜欢一个人,是不会晚回消息的,即使晚回复,会说明原因,是会对话框置顶的,是会主动给喜欢的人买东西的,是时时刻刻想着对方的,是不愿意对方为自己多花钱的。
请问,你占了哪一条?哪一条都没占,你怎么就那么确信他对你有点意思呢?
而且在这个阶段,舔狗们还会频繁的被自己衍生出的各种情绪所左右,因为对方对自己的态度时好时坏,有些时候感觉特别好,有些时候感觉又特别不好,所以就弄的患得患失,时间长了抑郁,失眠,厌食,焦虑,因为所有的注意力全部放在了这件事上。
还会感觉自己被吊着,其实完全是自己在给自己导演琼瑶式爱情连续剧,要是把大脑中的画面演绎出来,我估计收视率肯定特别高。
舔狗可怜吗?不可怜,可恨吗?其实也不可恨,喜欢一个人有错吗?喜欢一个人没错,但是喜欢一个不喜欢你的人就错了。
你付出的喜欢对方全盘接受,好点的,不厌恶你的可能会给你来一句,你是一个好人的称号,对于讨厌你的,可能会在心里骂你一句,傻逼,然后还会非常鄙夷的感觉你贱,做人到这个地步,又何必?
又有哪个人值得你不图任何回报,没有任何回报的付出呢?
当你知道对方不喜欢你的人,做的最正确的事情就是挥手转身,然后互道珍重,这样体面又完美多好,未来还会在彼此心中留下美好的回忆,因为互相都被尊重了。
怕就怕舔狗们一直死缠烂打,直到把对方烦的不堪其扰,最后选择拉黑删除,才作罢,舔狗们才真正明白,原来他是真不喜欢我,一切都是我自以为是,自作多情,自我感动罢了。
最后埃莫大于心死,其实哪有那么严重,你只是喜欢上了一个不喜欢你的人而已,在未来的某一个阶段,或者很快,你就会遇到一个你喜欢,而且也喜欢你的人,然后你们幸福的生活在了一起。
也不要诅咒或者期望对方就会过的很惨,对方不喜欢你,这是正常的,爱情本身就是两情相悦,凭什么你喜欢他,他就要喜欢你,爱而不得的事情多了去了,何苦为难别人,还为难自己。
他也会遇到一个他喜欢,然后也喜欢他的人,然后一起幸福的生活在一起,他也没有刻意的想要伤害你,他所表现出来的行为只是因为他不爱你,仅此而已!返回搜狐,查看更多
责任编辑:
评论(96)
получение медицинской справки
Normally I do not read article on blogs, however I wish to say that this write-up very pressured me to take a look at and do so! Your writing taste has been amazed me. Thank you, quite great article.
Hi, all the time i used to check webpage posts here early in the dawn, because i love to gain knowledge of more and more.
Hi there to all, how is all, I think every one is getting more from this web site, and your views are good for new users.
I do believe all the ideas you have presented in your post. They are very convincing and will definitely work. Still, the posts are too quick for beginners. May just you please extend them a bit from next time? Thank you for the post.
Wow, incredible blog layout! How long have you been blogging for? you make blogging look easy. The overall look of your web site is fantastic, let alone the content!
What a data of un-ambiguity and preserveness of precious familiarity concerning unexpected feelings.
This website was… how do I say it? Relevant!! Finally I have found something that helped me. Many thanks!
Hi, i feel that i saw you visited my weblog so i got here to go back the prefer?.I am trying to in finding things to improve my site!I assume its good enough to use some of your concepts!!
Have you ever considered about including a little bit more than just your articles? I mean, what you say is fundamental and all. However think about if you added some great graphics or video clips to give your posts more, “pop”! Your content is excellent but with images and video clips, this site could undeniably be one of the greatest in its niche. Good blog!
Hi there mates, good piece of writing and nice arguments commented here, I am truly enjoying by these.
Very nice article, just what I needed.
Excellent blog here! Also your website loads up fast! What host are you using? Can I get your affiliate link to your host? I wish my site loaded up as fast as yours lol
I love your blog.. very nice colors & theme. Did you create this website yourself or did you hire someone to do it for you? Plz reply as I’m looking to create my own blog and would like to know where u got this from. thank you
Quality posts is the important to invite the users to visit the web site, that’s what this site is providing.
It is perfect time to make some plans for the future and it is time to be happy. I have read this post and if I could I want to suggest you few interesting things or advice. Perhaps you could write next articles referring to this article. I want to read more things about it!
Its like you read my mind! You seem to know so much about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you could do with some pics to drive the message home a bit, but other than that, this is wonderful blog. A great read. I’ll definitely be back.
Simply want to say your article is as surprising. The clearness in your post is simply spectacular and i can assume you are an expert on this subject. Well with your permission allow me to grab your RSS feed to keep up to date with forthcoming post. Thanks a million and please continue the gratifying work.
I will right away grasp your rss as I can not find your email subscription link or newsletter service. Do you have any? Please allow me recognise so that I may just subscribe. Thanks.
What’s up to all, how is everything, I think every one is getting more from this web site, and your views are pleasant for new viewers.
Excellent, what a weblog it is! This weblog gives useful information to us, keep it up.
It’s a shame you don’t have a donate button! I’d most certainly donate to this excellent blog! I suppose for now i’ll settle for book-marking and adding your RSS feed to my Google account. I look forward to brand new updates and will talk about this blog with my Facebook group. Chat soon!
I like the valuable information you supply for your articles. I will bookmark your weblog and check again here frequently. I am moderately certain I will be told many new stuff right here! Good luck for the following!
Hi i am kavin, its my first time to commenting anywhere, when i read this piece of writing i thought i could also make comment due to this brilliant article.
Please let me know if you’re looking for a author for your site. You have some really great posts and I believe I would be a good asset. If you ever want to take some of the load off, I’d really like to write some articles for your blog in exchange for a link back to mine. Please send me an e-mail if interested. Cheers!
I love it when individuals come together and share thoughts. Great website, continue the good work!
I am truly thankful to the owner of this web site who has shared this wonderful post at at this place.
wonderful publish, very informative. I wonder why the other experts of this sector do not understand this. You should continue your writing. I am sure, you have a huge readers’ base already!
Fantastic beat ! I wish to apprentice while you amend your web site, how can i subscribe for a blog site? The account aided me a acceptable deal. I had been tiny bit acquainted of this your broadcast provided bright clear concept
Hmm it appears like your website ate my first comment (it was extremely long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I submitted and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I as well am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any tips and hints for beginner blog writers? I’d certainly appreciate it.
Great post but I was wondering if you could write a litte more on this topic? I’d be very grateful if you could elaborate a little bit more. Appreciate it!
Howdy I am so excited I found your blog page, I really found you by error, while I was searching on Askjeeve for something else, Anyhow I am here now and would just like to say cheers for a fantastic post and a all round interesting blog (I also love the theme/design), I dont have time to browse it all at the minute but I have saved it and also added in your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read a lot more, Please do keep up the awesome jo.
I’d like to find out more? I’d love to find out more details.
Hey there! Do you know if they make any plugins to protect against hackers? I’m kinda paranoid about losing everything I’ve worked hard on. Any recommendations?
Good info. Lucky me I came across your site by accident (stumbleupon). I have bookmarked it for later!
It is appropriate time to make a few plans for the future and it is time to be happy. I have read this submit and if I may just I wish to suggest you few fascinating things or advice. Perhaps you could write next articles referring to this article. I want to read more things approximately it!
Good replies in return of this query with solid arguments and describing everything about that.
Thanks to my father who shared with me regarding this blog, this webpage is actually awesome.
Элитный мужской эротический массаж в Москве с бассейном
I must thank you for the efforts you have put in writing this website. I am hoping to see the same high-grade blog posts from you in the future as well. In fact, your creative writing abilities has inspired me to get my own website now ;)
I was able to find good information from your blog articles.
Hurrah! After all I got a website from where I know how to in fact take useful information regarding my study and knowledge.
you are actually a just right webmaster. The site loading velocity is incredible. It sort of feels that you are doing any unique trick. Also, The contents are masterpiece. you have performed a wonderful activity in this topic!
Magnificent beat ! I wish to apprentice at the same time as you amend your site, how can i subscribe for a blog site? The account aided me a applicable deal. I were tiny bit familiar of this your broadcast provided vibrant transparent concept
Hi! Quick question that’s entirely off topic. Do you know how to make your site mobile friendly? My web site looks weird when viewing from my iphone. I’m trying to find a theme or plugin that might be able to fix this problem. If you have any suggestions, please share. Cheers!
Since the admin of this web site is working, no uncertainty very quickly it will be well-known, due to its quality contents.
Yes! Finally something about %keyword1%.
Hello there, You have performed an excellent job. I will definitely digg it and for my part recommend to my friends. I am sure they will be benefited from this web site.
Greetings! Very helpful advice within this article! It is the little changes that make the biggest changes. Thanks a lot for sharing!
Wow that was strange. I just wrote an very long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Regardless, just wanted to say superb blog!
It’s in fact very complex in this busy life to listen news on TV, thus I simply use web for that purpose, and get the newest news.
Pretty section of content. I just stumbled upon your weblog and in accession capital to assert that I acquire in fact enjoyed account your blog posts. Any way I’ll be subscribing to your augment and even I achievement you access consistently rapidly.
Greate article. Keep writing such kind of information on your page. Im really impressed by your site.
I was extremely pleased to discover this web site. I want to to thank you for your time for this wonderful read!! I definitely appreciated every little bit of it and I have you book marked to see new stuff on your blog.
Heya i’m for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out a lot. I hope to give something back and help others like you helped me.
I got this web site from my pal who informed me about this website and now this time I am visiting this site and reading very informative posts here.
I seriously love your site.. Very nice colors & theme. Did you make this web site yourself? Please reply back as I’m hoping to create my very own blog and want to learn where you got this from or exactly what the theme is called. Thank you!
After looking into a few of the blog articles on your web site, I really like your way of blogging. I added it to my bookmark site list and will be checking back soon. Take a look at my web site as well and let me know how you feel.
Hi to every body, it’s my first go to see of this website; this webpage includes remarkable and really fine data designed for readers.
Wow, wonderful blog layout! How long have you been blogging for? you make blogging look easy. The overall look of your web site is fantastic, let alone the content!
You really make it seem so easy with your presentation however I in finding this topic to be really something which I feel I would never understand. It sort of feels too complicated and very broad for me. I am taking a look forward on your next post, I will try to get the cling of it!
Wow that was strange. I just wrote an really long comment but after I clicked submit my comment didn’t show up. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Regardless, just wanted to say fantastic blog!
I visit each day some websites and information sites to read posts, but this website offers quality based posts.
Thank you for sharing your info. I truly appreciate your efforts and I am waiting for your next post thank you once again.
Fine way of describing, and nice piece of writing to get data regarding my presentation subject, which i am going to deliver in university.
Heya i’m for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out a lot. I hope to give something back and help others like you helped me.
Онлайн казино отличный способ провести время, главное помните, что это развлечение, а не способ заработка.
I’m really enjoying the design and layout of your blog. It’s a very easy on the eyes which makes it much more enjoyable for me to come here and visit more often. Did you hire out a designer to create your theme? Fantastic work!
I will right away take hold of your rss as I can not find your email subscription link or newsletter service. Do you have any? Please allow me realize so that I may just subscribe. Thanks.
Good day! I know this is kinda off topic but I was wondering if you knew where I could find a captcha plugin for my comment form? I’m using the same blog platform as yours and I’m having trouble finding one? Thanks a lot!
Heya! I just wanted to ask if you ever have any problems with hackers? My last blog (wordpress) was hacked and I ended up losing a few months of hard work due to no backup. Do you have any solutions to protect against hackers?
Greate pieces. Keep writing such kind of information on your page. Im really impressed by your blog.
Awesome website you have here but I was wanting to know if you knew of any user discussion forums that cover the same topics talked about in this article? I’d really love to be a part of online community where I can get responses from other knowledgeable individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Many thanks!
Thanks for sharing such a pleasant thought, piece of writing is good, thats why i have read it completely
Ищете профессионалов для устройства стяжки пола в Москве? Обратитесь к нам на сайт styazhka-pola24.ru! Мы предлагаем услуги по залитию стяжки пола любой сложности и площади, а также гарантируем быстрое и качественное выполнение работ.
строительное снабжение организаций
На mehanizirovannaya-shtukaturka-moscow.ru вы найдете бесподобные услуги механизированной штукатурки. Экономьте время, гарантируйте себе качество.
Saved as a favorite, I really like your blog!
Sweet blog! I found it while browsing on Yahoo News. Do you have any tips on how to get listed in Yahoo News? I’ve been trying for a while but I never seem to get there! Cheers
Your means of explaining all in this article is really pleasant, all can easily understand it, Thanks a lot.
Great article! This is the type of information that are supposed to be shared around the internet. Disgrace on the seek engines for now not positioning this publish upper! Come on over and discuss with my web site . Thank you =)
Ощутите разницу с профессиональной штукатуркой механизированная от mehanizirovannaya-shtukaturka-moscow.ru. Процесс быстрый и чистый.
hey there and thank you for your information I’ve definitely picked up anything new from right here. I did however expertise a few technical issues using this site, since I experienced to reload the web site many times previous to I could get it to load properly. I had been wondering if your web hosting is OK? Not that I am complaining, but sluggish loading instances times will often affect your placement in google and can damage your high quality score if advertising and marketing with Adwords. Anyway I’m adding this RSS to my e-mail and can look out for a lot more of your respective interesting content. Make sure you update this again soon.
I simply could not leave your site prior to suggesting that I really enjoyed the standard information a person supply in your visitors? Is going to be back ceaselessly in order to inspect new posts
Thanks for the marvelous posting! I definitely enjoyed reading it, you could be a great author. I will be sure to bookmark your blog and will often come back in the future. I want to encourage one to continue your great writing, have a nice day!
This design is steller! You most certainly know how to keep a reader entertained. Between your wit and your videos, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost…HaHa!) Great job. I really enjoyed what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool!
Hi there mates, good post and nice arguments commented here, I am truly enjoying by these.
My relatives always say that I am wasting my time here at net, except I know I am getting knowledge every day by reading such nice posts.
Greetings! I know this is somewhat off topic but I was wondering which blog platform are you using for this site? I’m getting fed up of WordPress because I’ve had issues with hackers and I’m looking at options for another platform. I would be great if you could point me in the direction of a good platform.
Hello, I check your blogs like every week. Your story-telling style is awesome, keep up the good work!
What’s up i am kavin, its my first time to commenting anywhere, when i read this post i thought i could also make comment due to this brilliant article.
I think what you postedtypedsaidbelieve what you postedwrotesaidbelieve what you postedtypedsaidthink what you postedwroteWhat you postedtyped was very logicala lot of sense. But, what about this?consider this, what if you were to write a killer headlinetitle?content?typed a catchier title? I ain’t saying your content isn’t good.ain’t saying your content isn’t gooddon’t want to tell you how to run your blog, but what if you added a titlesomethingheadlinetitle that grabbed people’s attention?maybe get people’s attention?want more? I mean %BLOG_TITLE% is a little plain. You ought to peek at Yahoo’s home page and see how they createwrite news headlines to get viewers to click. You might add a related video or a pic or two to get readers interested about what you’ve written. Just my opinion, it could bring your postsblog a little livelier.
Good day! This is my 1st comment here so I just wanted to give a quick shout out and tell you I truly enjoy reading through your blog posts. Can you suggest any other blogs/websites/forums that deal with the same subjects? Thanks for your time!
Hey there! I know this is kinda off topic however I’d figured I’d ask. Would you be interested in exchanging links or maybe guest writing a blog article or vice-versa? My site addresses a lot of the same subjects as yours and I feel we could greatly benefit from each other. If you happen to be interested feel free to send me an e-mail. I look forward to hearing from you! Wonderful blog by the way!
It’s remarkable designed for me to have a website, which is helpful for my experience. thanks admin
Hello there, just became aware of your blog through Google, and found that it is really informative. I’m gonna watch out for brussels. I will appreciate if you continue this in future. Many people will be benefited from your writing. Cheers!